Testimonials

What Jocelyn is very good at is creating a safe space, and it’s very impactful. I feel seen, I feel heard, I feel safe and open to hearing new things.  Regardless of being on zoom, I always feel very open and connected, and that’s a very beautiful spot. I’ve never really experienced that before.  I’ve always been in a space where I was disconnected from every source, everything, and everyone else. I am able to connect with Jocelyn when I’m getting caught up in the thick of things, in the waves. What I appreciate is that she can look at me with an unfiltered lens without all the clutter, with a different perspective, and say clearly what she sees, and she puts light on things in a gentle but no b**** kind of way.

I love being able to come in, put down my baggage and have a space to unpack it if I need to. Sometimes, what I have in the bags don’t need to be unpacked. I don’t want to come to a session with an agenda of unpacking my trauma. I know that we are going to create a different place of understanding about whatever we are talking about or experiencing, and the backpack will naturally unpack itself, or maybe it won’t, and it doesn’t matter.  With Jocelyn it’s just let’s look at the experience and see what we can create differently?

I would recommend Jocelyn to people who have experienced structural or institutional hurts and harms whatever that may be. She doesn’t mess around with different levels of build-up, just straight to the point, with a forwardness, a directness, that is still gentle and understanding and compassionate.  That’s what allows me to feel seen in a loved and direct way.

Beto Contreras

Insight Alliance, Teacher of Insight to Wellbeing, Peer Mentor

I’ve loved my time with Jos. I sometimes go into sessions feeling heavy and troubled, and always leave feeling lighter. When I’ve had CBT in the past, I’ve often felt like I’m just at the start of a long road of understanding all the things that are wrong in my life and that I’ve got to learn how to manage them, and work hard at being different. It felt like I had a mountain of work to do on myself in order to live a better life, and sometimes I dreaded the next session in case it was upsetting.

With Jos it just doesn’t feel like that.  I’m not exhausted and drained after a session. I feel better, and relieved that I don’t have more work to do in my busy life.  Between sessions, I’ve noticed that I’m not looking at things in the same way, I don’t see so much stress and problems when things go wrong. Even if I do get a bit caught up in something, I know it passes without me worrying about it so I don’t get so overwhelmed or anxious. I’ve learned how my thinking changes with the state of mind that I’m in and how to recognise whether I can trust my thinking, so no matter what happens I can navigate my own way. It seems so much easier to move through difficult times.

Zebedee 

Maths teacher

What’s fresh and different about sessions with Jos is that sometimes I can turn up with a massive list of all the terrible things that are happening, and it feels overwhelming, but we don’t pick them all apart bit by bit and work through them in an exhausting serious kind of way.  Instead, everything loosens up and feels lighter, and less serious, and I can see that there is choice, and I can find an answer.

Anonymous

I am very grateful to Jane for writing and sharing her story here.  It's an incredible journey, and it's been an absolute honour and a lot of fun to be with Jane over the last year. No matter what is happening, she is committed, and comes to sessions with honesty and openness, and prepared to share her vulnerabilities and her successes in equal measure.  

Jane's insights along the way have been described with such awareness, clarity, and powerful imagery that it has been a gift of learning for me too.  Jane shares her story in the hope that it might inspire even one person to reach out for help to someone; whether it be at work, in personal life, a GP or to one of the many practitioners of the inside-out understanding.

There's always hope!

Jocelyn

CLIENT STORY - JANE 

(VETERINARY SURGEON)

I once read this somewhere...

"She wanted peace, so she forgot all she was taught and remembered herself"  

Jaiya John

This, for me, is what sums up my journey over the last year or so, with Jocelyn.  Learning about the Three Principles has been so interesting, and the enlightenment around the relationship between Mind, Consciousness and Thought has been wonderful and mind-blowing all at the same time. The discovery that our innate well-being is with us always, and always accessible, whatever life may throw our way, has been a true gift.

Jocelyn doesn't instruct or set work to do but guides you, through listening, towards rediscovering your inner wisdom.  There is no hand-out 'tool kit'.  It just is. It's there, and always was.  It just gets drowned out by noise, inner chatter, and a busy personal mind.   The fact that our thoughts create our feelings and therefore our reality, and so our realities can change moment to moment and at any given time, sounded so simple, but once appreciated and 'seen', can truly alter the way you move through your life. 

I had been diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, and OCD and had had various counselling sessions, CBT and EMDR therapies, and specialist therapies for OCD, all which helped to some degree.  But the strategies put in place and work I was given to do between sessions to help me stay on track and overcome these, never seemed to fully solve anything.  And it became exhausting.  I did feel heard and yes, things would get better for a bit but then resurface.  It felt like a constant battle and that I somehow had to learn to accept that this was 'me' now, forever.  

Initially I was quite sceptical that this would be any different. However, since joining Jocelyn and taking on the full understanding of the Three Principles, it all made perfect sense to me, and I realised I had the 'tools' all along.  It was me!  I started to notice a big difference in myself very quickly, and now my anxiety has just about disappeared, as has the OCD.  And yet, bizarrely there has been no 'work' to do to get to this stage.  I feel the trust in myself has grown immensely, hence uncertainty and thoughts have reduced, or at least I don't take them as seriously, fully aware that they are momentary and will change in a heartbeat.  They no longer dictate my reality.  With this has come less of a need for external validation or reassurance.  Inner wisdom, and a space somewhere inside is my guide, and I have rediscovered my true common sense.  

Moving through daily life now feels much less stressful, despite challenges faced, because I can recognise when I am in a poor quality state of mind and then I don’t take my thinking seriously.  A poor quality state of mind happens rarely now, and it is very conspicuous when it arrives!  The realisation that this was how I was moving through life before as my normal, and not even recognising it, has been such an eye opener!  OCD is often governed and influenced by thought or an anxious mind, and then becomes a coping strategy to distract from this. It doesn’t make sense to me anymore to pay these thoughts any attention. The healing has happened naturally, without even trying to do anything about my thoughts or focussing on 'working' on the OCD.  It really is amazing to be free from it after years of trying to 'fix' it.

Jocelyn is patient and calm and nurtures you to a place of (without meaning to sound cheesy!), finding your true self again.  This is how I see it.  I genuinely feel like I have found the old 'new' me again. This has been empowering and truly magical.  

During the sessions with Jocelyn, mostly I just talk, and Jocelyn almost acts like a mirror, allowing me to see that the answers I need are already somewhere within me.  If there are issues to discuss, she helps by guiding me to the problem and encourages me to consider things from a different angle.  It is very, very different to anything previously I have been offered.   

I’ve realised that we very rarely truly listen to others, not always fully, because our personal minds are so busy and noisy. I feel all of this has helped me in relating to others too, because I feel 'quieter' so I am in a better place to listen properly.  I am calmer and more patient in the hustle and bustle of life.

There can be challenges still - this isn't to say all is rosy from now on!  At times I still get stuck, but I understand what’s happening, and realise I can let my mind quieten and 'listen for a feeling' and wisdom eventually shines through.  It is a constant, always there to guide you.  It really does sound unbelievable and like I say, I was sceptical initially, but once discovered, it feels as if a lightbulb has switched on. 

There is no 'work on yourself' with Jocelyn. There is no, "be proactive"; "think positive thoughts"; "be grateful"; no distracting yourself; no strategies to put in place to try and overcome challenges, no analysing or processing to be done.  There is a new acceptance of appreciating and allowing the more negative times, the low emotional states and frustrations without judgement, letting you be kinder and gentler with yourself without trying.

I am so unbelievably thankful to Jocelyn for showing me this different approach. There will always be challenges in life, but being able to recognise more quickly when I am coming at life from a poor quality state of mind has been life-changing. This has affected me personally and on a deeper level more than any previous ‘therapies’. I move through life with a different mind, calmer.  Life is more of a 'flow', rather than full of stress and on high alert all the time. 

It's magic, it is a gift, it just needs the tight bow and sticky tape pulling off and unwrapping! It is enlightening, and it is simple. I would highly recommend Jocelyn to anyone struggling with anxiety, depression or low mood, feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or burnt-out, whether due to the nature of their job or otherwise.

Jane